(My wife is much smarter than me.)Īcts suspicious – Don’t misunderstand or misapply this one. She feels demeaned and devalued when you present her to others as if she can’t compete with you in original thought…which you know isn’t true. And, you know she’s not less than you – you don’t even think she is – she just can’t tell that sometimes based on your tone and the way you talk to her.Ĭorrects her as she’s talking – This could be finishing her sentences or speaking for her in the company of others. Speaks with curtness – When you talk down to her, as if she’s somehow less than you, you bruise her spirit. The key here is that you can’t talk to her like you might talk to another guy. But it is often building a wall of protection around her heart each time you do. Underestimates the small stuff – You only said “this” but it was “THIS” to her. She wants you to appreciate who she is, but you can admit it – she does a lot. Whether it’s decorating the house or making sure the clothes are clean – or that you have your favorite soap – a woman wants to know what she does is valued by you. She sees the marriage as a partnership – in every part of life – even the parts she may never fully understand.įails to notice the difference she makes – A woman doesn’t want to be appreciated for only what she does. Here are 7 ways a husband injures a wife – without even knowing it:Ĭuts her out of the discussion – When you act as if she isn’t even there or wouldn’t understand what you’re talking about, she feels a part of her is detached. This post is written with one finger pointed forward and four more pointed my way. I wish I could say I never did any of these, but this would be a lie. As a counselor and pastor, I’ve worked with hundreds of couples and have seen this countless times. I ran this post by my wife, so it’s Cheryl approved, although it wasn’t that hard to write.
We should strive to learn our spouse and do better at understanding our differences, communicating better and injuring less. And, most of the time, it’s unintentional. We are different and the way we respond to our wife often causes injury. Of course, a companion post is warranted. My post “ 7 Ways a Wife Injures a Husband…Without Even Knowing It” has been a popular (and unpopular) post.